A message for anyone struggling to let go and leave the baggage behind
Every day, millions of people are moving about the planet attached to things that happened in their past. They let it haunt them like a ghost. Abusive parents create an opportunity for abusive spouses.
The alcohol that grandpa drank becomes our vice of pride. Our third-grade teacher telling us that we’ll never be able to write stops us dead in our tracks from becoming a future prolific writer. And like a hot air balloon, we never cut the sandbags to begin our ascent to the top. It’s a shame too.
Can you imagine a world where everyone lived baggage-free? Nobody was attached to the negative situations that happened in their lives? I believe it’s possible. How do I know? I’ve only gotten a small glimpse of what it’s like, and I can tell you that it’s a beautiful way to live. You have peace and joy. You can have a clear mind and make room for new opportunities, people, and experiences to come into your life.
They say growth is at the end of your comfort zone. I believe growth is at the other end of fear. When we openly address the things that have been holding us back while working to gain awareness about how they affect our lives and the lives of those around us, that’s when we experience growth. Become a casual observer of your reactions to situations that come up in everyday life. What lies do you tell yourself based on flawed programming from the past?
You may say, “I could never run 10 miles”, “I can barely run 1 mile, let alone 10.”
What situation happened in your past that makes you believe it’s impossible? You likely tried running for a few days, and it never panned out. Afterward, you decided that it wasn’t for you and that running wasn’t your thing. Deflated and feeling like a failure, you hung it up or, worse, vowed never to run again. These types of scenarios play out every day in all aspects of our life.
We buy into the idea that we’re not enough, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Life becomes less enjoyable, and we find ways to busy ourselves with distractions. We create our own little safe havens with drugs, alcohol, sex, and work to fill the gaping void left behind. We renounce hiding in novels, video games, and religion while taking on lesser ambitious roles that don’t challenge us to become our true selves and live fully.
I know this to be true because I’ve struggled with it myself. I always knew my gift to the world but chose to hide behind the mask I created for myself. I feared that I could never make a real living being my authentic self because society told me I had to conform. Far tougher was seeing the look on my mom’s face when I told her I was quitting my career that she had worked so hard to ensure I had a future for.
The games and lies that we tell ourselves to cope are rampant and out of control. It’s about time that we start holding ourselves accountable for the baggage we carry. It’s about time we reach a heightened state of conscious awareness and make strides to rid ourselves of attachment.
Why? Because it’s the only way forward toward the goal of living fully. It’s time to allow room for the bad programming to be reprogrammed. Leave old habits to die. And let the lines of the sandbags be clipped. It’s time to ascend to new heights.
When you let go of that baggage that’s holding you back, two things will instantly happen. First, you’ll make space in your life for new opportunities to show up. Secondly, you’ll find that you move throughout the day with more grace. The world is a beautiful place to be when everything and everyone around you is in flow, and the things that used to cause you pain becomes an afterthought. You begin to live with openness to whatever life brings your way.
The Buddha began with the principle that life is suffering. I’ve never considered myself a religious person, but when I first heard this, it made sense. I thought, why didn’t anyone tell me this earlier? It sure would have helped me not be so caught up feeling like I was the only person being dragged through the shitter.
The more I began to observe my life and be honest about what was happening, the more I realized that my problems weren’t unique. As I shared my shortcoming and frustrations about what was happening in my life, I found that others were going through similar challenges. I learned that we’re all soldiers of the same struggle.
My small yoga class became a weekly therapy session. Slowly, I learned how to cope and regain control of my life. In a genuine physical and emotional sense, I had to let go of the baggage that I had been carrying to make space for the new.
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